There are times when life throws you a curve ball and you find out who you really are…
What you’re really made of…
For me, tragedy is usually to blame for my reboots and reframes.
A sudden death. Heartbreaking split. Frightening diagnosis.
Why do we wait for tragedy to reset and prioritize?
Why do we wait for pain to help us redefine our life paths?
Why do we hunt for answers in the agony?
…especially when this invitation for grief is the one thing we’d like to avoid?
What if we took a chance today, right now in this moment, to redefine what matters most?
These are all questions and topics I’ve been marinating on.
Like a pinball game, thoughts, ideas and questions pinging around my brain.
And no one’s winning.
So I began to catch and examine each one-by-one.
The first one I looked at was this notion of my identity.
When I looked closer, I found that my identity was deeply tied to what I do and what I have, rather than who I am.
It was tied to everyone else, everything else…
Well, the more I poked and prodded, the more one issue became clear:
I’ve been so consumed in projects, in people, in promotions and in mundane processes that I forgot to keep hold of the thing that makes me truly unique:
As the host of a podcast, this sounds a bit silly.
But while some my thoughts and views are expressed twice a week in iTunes, my REAL voice, my REAL layers had no outlet.
Welcome to PhoebeMroczek.com.
My home for the next three months.
In a podcast interview with Tim Ferriss, he explained how he lives his life in experiments.
Free from expectations. Free from judgment.
Not to prove anything, but rather to experiment and reevaluate at the end of the given period.
So, I’m committing to 3 months of blogging.
At the end of the 3 months, I will reevaluate and recalibrate.
And my metric is not financial.
It is based on fun and freedom.
If it feels fun and free, I’ll continue. If not, I’ll move on.
As high achievers, we put ourselves in a pressure cooker of expectations and judgment.
What if it isn’t good enough? What if I’m not good enough?
Story. Of. My. Life.
Thing is – I have SO many things I want to get out into the world.
There’s the business side, which most people expect from me.
Marketing funnels, Facebook ads, high-level launch strategy.
But there’s so much more I want to share.
This ain’t no one-trick pony.
There’s the personal side, filled with juicy dating stories, funny mishaps and my journey to true vulnerability and connection.
And good lord, there’s a LOT in between.
Because… well, I’m tired.
Tired of the BS.
Tired of filtering and seeing myself through a lens of disappointment and self-loathing.
Who decided it was fair to judge yourself based on the expectations laid out by others?
Who decided it was smart to compare yourself and your “success” to someone else’s?
And in that same breath, what IS true success?
THESE are the conversations I invite you to join me in.
Not the conversations about which marketing platform you should choose or how your funnel is broken.
(Well… maybe some of that too.)
These are my REAL life conversations that keep me up at night (or is that the booze?)
And I’ve never had that outlet until now.
So here’s how I see this experiment working…
Over the next 90 days, I’m going to untangle the beautiful mess that is me.
I’m going full frontal on topics like:
Health: Diets, Doritos and Push-ups
Wealth: Money, Manifesting and Incremental Upgrades
Business: Success, Struggles and Truth
Travel: Fun, Freedom and Adventure
Spirituality: Meditation, Mindfulness and Skepticism
Love: Dating apps, Douchebags and Friendship
Nothing is off-limits.
And you’ll notice I haven’t labeled it as my “Blog,” but rather “Conversations” because I’m hoping this will be a 2-way conversation.
So I’d like to request that you comment, question, engage and share.
Comment on things you enjoy. I’ll know what’s resonating.
Question everything. It challenges me to show up as my best.
Engage in meaningful discussions. Check your inner troll at the door.
Share your insights, ah-has and similarities. (Selfishly, it helps me feel more sane.) And of course, if you find value, I ask that you pass it on and share it with someone who may need the message.
Thank you for allowing me to show up for you.
Thank you for your love and support in this article, in this experiment and in this moment.
I won’t let you down.
But more importantly, I won’t let myself down.
So, this is where you’ll find me.